We all want A's...I don't care how old you are. In everything we do in life, we want to succeed, get pats on the back, high fives, "atta boys"... basically, life's "A+'s". So, when it comes to meeting with your child's teacher for
parent/teacher conferences, aim for the the best possible outcome! Ace that meeting this year.
We tell our kids daily to do their
homework. Now it's our turn... We have 10 minutes (give or take) with the person our children spends the majority of their time with during the week, learning and molding their minds for the future. Let me tell you.. you DON'T want to blow those 10 minutes on how organized the classroom is or what a great haircut the teacher has. Get in there and get down to business. This isn't coffee or happy hour, it's your
CHILD'S FUTURE.
Here's a checklist to help you prepare (and yes - you can take notes with you to rattle off and questions to go over with the teacher - this helps keep you on track!):
- Talk to your child PRIOR to the conference to see if he/she has concerns you can address
- Discuss any at home issues that may be affecting the work at school
- Ask for specifics about your child's work. Don't be intimated by jargon you may not understand or really care about when in comes to "the majority" or "the class." This is YOUR CHILD'S time.
- Stay focused on your child - not on your past (as a child), your work, or your view on the curriculum. Stay in the present.
- Discuss common goals and your role in those.
- ASK for follow up emails or conversations if you feel they are necessary.
This is a partnership. Don't become antagonistic...the time with your child's teacher should be open and honest and a fair playing field or nothing will or can be accomplished.
If your child is having conflicts with the teacher that you are aware of, these should definitely be addressed. Make sure before having this discussion, that your child has given you solid, concrete examples of what has happened (as well as he/she can from a child's viewpoint). Ask your teacher for her insights, you may find that there are reasons why her decisions have been made, or you may find you need additional help in being heard. Either way, the dialogue needs to be open. Allow the teacher to first have the chance to work things out with your child before going to next level. Many times she may not known the extent of what was going on or being felt, and now is able to address the feelings and situation with your child.
Bottom line is that we all want what's best for the kids... to grow, to learn and become responsible, smart adults ready to help change the world!
If you find out your child needs addtional help or needs to be challenged more...
contact us. We know where you can get some great
in home tutoring.
As our kids play sports, do team activities, or individual activities, they are taught simple rules to help make their experience a safer, more productive and fun one. As I was thinking about these rules and talking to my own son about them, I realized they apply to everything we do on a daily basis...school, work, relationships with friends/parents/siblings/teachers/co-workers/bosses/coaches and of course, teammates.
